THE BLESSING WAY IN MIDLIFE
There are iterations and different meanings of the blessing way- the most well-known being- honoring an expectant mother.
I’ve taken this meaning and applied it here, in midlife, to those of us birthing a new way for ourselves.
If you allow it, seek it, and honor this possibility- the blessing way can inform your life in a way never before revealed to you. It can be a refuge and a balm during challenging times. And a delight and a “north star” of sorts when circumstances become aligned with your most authentic self because of it.
You may have found sign-posts of it along the way, but you were too busy surviving and making your way in the world to notice the ease and grace way- but perhaps now you can implement a new way of moving in the world.
Here is something to ponder- are you not holy and worthy enough of your own love?
Is it true that you have to do that one more anything in order to be deemed- enough?
I say, you sure as hell do not.
And that is the introduction to the blessing way.
It is your own initiation into blessing your own life without any prescribed dogma, just aligned action that feels true to your own precious self.
Now, sometimes we need a little inspiration to get beyond the imagining, and into aligned action.
Accordingly, here are three introductions to help jump-start your own blessing way-
Intro #1 - Send love ahead of you in everything you do.
Hokey? Dewey-eyed? Platitudinous?
Don’t knock it until you give it a try. At some of the lowest points in my life, when I was spent, and just didn’t give a shit- I did that.
It helped- every time.
And, that is not to say everything went my way, but I felt a sense of not being alone. And, not feeling alone gave me strength.
And, as a side note- I really felt a sense of God with me. But, not the judgy dude sitting on a cloud ready to smite me God- no, instead a Presence that was aware of me and that was The Place where Love originated.
Intro #2 - Find every way that you know of to comfort yourself and be a balm to your battered heart.
Here are a few ways I bless my own life-
I comfort myself with rituals, like- writing my morning pages and pouring out all that my heart and spirit is holding on to that does not serve me. Or celebrating the circumstances and people I am am grateful for.
I also nurture relationships that bolster my spirit.
And-I get my ass outside. Nature is the bomb-diggity for me. It is alive and like a sedative. And, it is free!
Intro # 3- Have the courage to re-examine everything in your life that feels crappy- or worse.
Try it all on. Be fucking brave and change what is sucking the life out of you.
Be brave and change that which insults your soul.
After all, this is no dress rehearsal-right?
So, there you have it- a beginning.
Your life does not need to be perfect to begin this communion with, and benediction to, your own life. In fact, it may be more perfect, if it is not.
Lucky you! Your results are likely to be immediate, and perhaps more dramatic. Funny, how that works. Who knew?
There is so much you deserve in this life midlife citizen, but only you can implement the blessing way of life unto yourself.
To that end-please, for your own sake, and all of ours- beam your enoughness, your light, love and unique expression out into the world- because there will never, ever be another you.
And that dear one, is enough.